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Why is my life falling apart?


Ephesians 2:19-20. Consequently, you are no longer foreigners and strangers, but fellow citizens with God’s people and also members of his household, built on the foundation of the apostles and prophets, with Christ Jesus himself as the chief cornerstone.

Three years ago, I was asked to be part of a team to oversee and manage the construction of a Php10 Million construct for our local church. I have to be completely honest that I felt like the biggest fool leading a team of contractors, foremen, an architect and an engineer considering that I was the only one in the team with no experience in construction and no formal training.

I did learn, however, was to put my complete trust in experts and let them do what they do best while I would simply give the vision and direction. Sounds easy enough, but I needed the grace of God on a daily basis no doubt.

In one instance, I was discussing with the civil engineer how much it cost to set ten-foot-deep foundations for the building. The cost was easily a third of the whole project budget and would probably cost more, but one thing I knew about construction is that foundations are important. So going with that, I gave the budget an “OK.”

The Bible teaches us that Jesus is the cornerstone that we build upon. A cornerstone is a big slab of rock that becomes the basis of every brick and stone that would become a construct. If the cornerstone were to be removed from a building, chances are, the whole building will be distorted or may even fall apart in some instances.

In the same way, Jesus is the cornerstone of every area of our life- our work, our families, our finances, our health, everything. And as simple as this sounds, many of us have removed the “Cornerstone” from our life and wondered why everything is falling apart.

Isaiah 28:16 says, ”Behold, I am the one who has laid as a foundation in Zion, a stone, a tested stone, a precious cornerstone, of a sure foundation.”

We all need a sure foundation, and though we try to make our expertise, our bank accounts, our families or even our connections those foundations, nothing and no one can be as effective at holding things together for us except Jesus.

We set Jesus as the cornerstone of our life by doing two simple things:

Make Him the standard for everything. Just as the cornerstone determines the size and angle that every other brick will be, Jesus is to be the standard in every decision and thought in our lives. We can’t always be like Jesus, but we can surely ask for His strength to enable us to be transformed into His glory and likeness progressively.

Lean on Him in times of turmoil. Many people turn to people, materials and substances when trials come thinking that things of this world can remove the pain, stress and worry that storms bring. But Jesus is the only sure foundation, and when we lean on Him and His power by putting our trust in Him, our life will not be easily shaken.

7 Lessons Steve Harvey Taught Us


Steve Harvey was not a name that a lot of people knew before today. In fact, I don’t think this many people have ever remembered the name of a pageant host ever. As famous as Harvey is right now, I’m not so sure if he or anyone else around thinks that’s a good thing.

When Steve said the words “I have to apologize” right after announcing that Miss Colombia was Miss Universe 2015, people knew his career as a host/comedian would never be the same again.

And as painfully hilarious (Sorry, Harvey!) or even a little frustrating Steve’s small mistake was, there are some vital lessons we can learn from his blunder. Here are a few lessons I’ve learned from this, and many other situations.

1. Small mistakes may sometimes have big impact

A simple honest mistake in reading cue cards- who would have thought that it would turn into a nightmare? This reminds us to be careful and always be on our guard. The devil is in the details, as they say. That small little area you forgot to check could easily be the destruction of all you’ve worked for.

2. Everyone makes mistakes

Steve Harvey was chosen as the host for Miss Universe for a reason- because he’s the best! One can only imagine the years of experience he has hadBut even the best hosts are far from perfect.

3. There’s no escaping the consequence of our mistakes

An apology is not a way out of our mistakes, but I do believe that it makes bearing consequences more bearable. When we admit our own mistakes, we admit that the consequence is ours to deal with as well.

4. Passing the blame does no good

How many times have you heard a work colleague, boss, classmate, spouse or sibling pass the blame to make things easier for him or her? Truth be told, there is no benefit in passing the blame. It’s often thought that it saves our necks, but our failures will catch up to us sooner or later.

5. It’s not always okay to make mistakes

The saying, “It’s okay to make mistakes,” is not always accurate. When you make mistakes that you’ve committed before or that you’ve been warned of prior to choosing your actions, then it’s not okay to make those mistakes anymore.

6. Mistakes can define us just the way success would

Your failures can define your character just as much as your success would, but that’s not always a bad thing! One of the benefits that mistakes give is the lessons that come with it, which mould us to become better. Allow your failures to define you in a way that can make you grow.

7. Imperfect people still need redemption

Humans are organisms of perfection, meaning we chase after it. That’s because we need perfection. We need perfect schedules, perfect food quality, perfect business models. The sad thing is, we can never get that kind of perfection from people. However, the good news is we can depend on the perfection of that is in God. In our weakness, He is made perfect.

How to Stay Away from the Love of Money

There was once a businessman by the name of Robert G. LeTourneau, one of the most decorated heavy machinery inventors in history. RG LeTourneau started off terribly as a businessman, getting into gambling and drinking at an early age. By 28, his business was under $5,000 in debt (this was back in the 1900s). At that point, jobless and broke, He finds God and surrenders His life to Jesus Christ.

KABUL, AFGHANISTAN - OCTOBER 28: Bundles of old Afghani bills are destroyed in a furnace October 28, 2002 in Kabul, Afghanistan. Every day the banks are shredding and burning hundreds of thousands of old afghani bank notes, using brick kilns and furnaces, as the country goes through the slow conversion to the new money, which was introduced on October 7. The banks will continue to shred and burn the afghani until all the old notes are gone. Until now transactions have taken place in three types of local currency. The government expects that replacing the old bills will simplify transactions across the country. (Photo by Paula Bronstein/Getty Images)

One day RG, goes to his pastor and tells him that he wants to be a missionary. RG’s pastor’s response shocks him, “RG, God needs businessmen too.”

RG obeyed and went back into business, but this time with a new motivation- a new value. By 1935, he was worth $1.5 Million. At that point, RG made a goal to reverse his tithe, meaning he lived off 10% of what he earned and gave 90% to missions and ministry.

What was the difference between RG’s first and second attempt at business? It was the heart- the value. Values drive everything we do, and the quality of your values affect the quality of your work. When you value money as an end goal, your work becomes better when you get more, but often at the expense of other values like family, relationships, co-workers and even integrity.

Truth be told, there is nothing wrong about money, but it does have the power to alter or distort values, just like any value can. How can we stay away from a distasteful and dangerous love of money?

1. Understand that It’s Not Your Money

People find it hard to part with things that they believe they deserve. When money is hard earned and won over, people can’t seem to let go of it, and they should feel good that they earned so much. However, we must remember that even though we earn our keep, it is God who give the ability to produce wealth. Your business, your high-ranking job, your income is a result of the overflowing grace of God. The love of money only comes when we think it’s ours.

2. Make it About Others

To serve the self is the biggest trap there is, and often brings about the love of money. When you work to build YOUR career, YOUR name and YOUR reputation, YOU will get extremely stressed in the process. Making about others and serving others takes so much of that toxicity away. How about doing it for your family, your customers or even for your boss?

3. Honor God

The Bible tells us that whether we eat or drink, we are to do it for the glory of God. Did you know this was part of a letter Paul wrote to church leaders who chose to do things irregardless of what it did to others?

The love of money is best fought back with the love and honor of God. When the heart of the intent is to honor God, and not honor a person or organization, we act in a way that keeps us clear of selfishness and wrong values.


3 Ways Introvert Leaders Can be More Relational

A few months back, I was asked by my Senior Pastor to abandon my post as in-house Art Director to take on the role of being Discipleship Director of Victory Iloilo, my heart skipped a beat. I’m an introvert by nature, and my last role fit me well- sitting in the office, coughing up designs, maintaining the church website, editing videos, and practically anything that needed minimal human interaction.